I have loved the look of dreadlocks for as long as I can remember and I am contemplating doing them in my hair. The length of my hair is finally long enough and they have a special meaning to me for the journey that I am on.
I recently posted on my facebook page asking for opinions from family and friends, I wanted to see what people had to say about dreads. I got a lot of great advice & opinions that has been really helping me sort this out.
Getting dreads is kind of a big deal, its not like I’m a young college student working at a hip coffee shop, I have a career and I am a mom so I have a lot to consider.
First of all, there is the social impact, how will people react? Specifically family, co-workers, my clients, my son’s friends and family and also his school. I think most people view people with dreads as smelly, lazy pot heads. It’s a sad stereo type for an amazing hair style.
Second there is the logistics to consider like how to do it, how to maintain it, how does it feel to sleep on, etc.
I really want to weigh all of the pro’s and con’s because this is a huge commitment, they will be in my hair for a long time and if I decide at some point that I dont want them I need to be prepared to have really short hair for a while.
I think the social aspect will be the hardest hurdle that I will have to overcome. I am not sure how my boss and coworkers will react, they are pretty conservative. Also, I don’t want to loose the respect of my clients, a lot of them are older and also very conservative. I will need to be very careful with how I present myself so that the dreads are not a complete turn-off.
I am also a little concerned about what my sons peers may think, hopefully he will not get teased. My thought is that kids now a days are pretty open to that kind of stuff and my son hangs around with pretty laid back people, so I guess I’m really not that concerned. I suppose while going to school conferences we might get a few looks but due to the amount of time I spend at his school I don’t think it will really be an issue… I hope. I can always wear it pulled up or in a wrap or something so that its less noticeable.
I asked Blake what he thought about me getting dreadlocks and he said in a typical teenager tone, “ehh, whatever!” LOL! So I guess he doesn’t really care too much.
My husband is very supportive of me and is totally on board if its what I want. Gotta love that kind of love, eh? I heart that man so much!!
As for the rest my family, well, they are pretty accepting and I am sure will love me no matter what… I doubt anyone will disown me for something like this- fingers crossed!!
The logistics are the easy part thanks to the internet! There are tons of “how to” videos and sites with lots of great info. People are just so willing to help- I love that!
I am weighing everything and so far it’s not changing my decision. For me this hair style represents more than just an “alternative” hair type. I view dreadlocks as a persons ultimate commitment to creativity.
This marks the transition of my old self into my new self. I view it like shedding my old skin to give life to new. Its about personal transformation and expression. I am going through a major spiritual transition, well I have been for the past few years, and I feel I am finally starting to blossom or come out of my cocoon. In that respect this hair style is very symbolic to me. I am ready to spread my wings and fly and this symbolizes that for me.
I have decided to do a trial run and just do one small dread on the back underside of my hair, that way it can be concealed but I can get a good feel for what to expect.
Here it is!
I first started with the rip/ tear method and that worked great until I got about mid way down and my hair became pretty thin so I finished it off with back combing. There are a lot of loose hairs right now. I tried the crochet hook method to try and pull the hairs into the dread.That worked for some but from what i have read its pretty typical with new dreads to have that “fuzz”.
Dreadlocks are a journey, not a magical overnight thing. So, this will teach me about patience and commitment.
Oh and just to clear things up if you are not familiar with dreadlocks…
- They are not dirty and smelly, well, I guess if you never wash they can be, BUT for most people with dreads washing is a must! You actually have to maintain your hair/ scalp better than before. Washing 2-3 times a week with a residue free shampoo is key.
- Having dreadlocks does NOT mean you are a pot head- I definitely am NOT!
- Having dreadlocks does not mean you are a lazy person and don’t do your hair. There is actually just as much maintenance to this hair style as most other styles.
My heart tells me to wait at least one week and live with my solo dread to see how it does. I will try not to be impulsive and either take it out if I get frustrated with it or start doing the rest of my head when I don’t have the time to finish them.
So far, after just 24 hours, I am still loving the solo deadlock. Its not scratchy like some people say, maybe thats because my hair is so fine? I really like that I can put a bead in it. And, when I pull my hair back no one notices it- it just blends right in. I guess we’ll see what happens tomorrow when I wash my hair though!
I will keep you posted as to how things go and if I decide to go ahead and actually do this, which is pretty much a given that I will.
I also think this is going to be a neat social experiment to see how different people react, and you bet I will be posting about it. I would love to report back to you that people embraced my new hair with open arms… but we’ll see.
Why don’t you weigh in on this and tell me what you think… do you like dreads or hate them? Or have anything else for me to consider?